We all need to be validated and accepted. We all want to be appreciated for who we are and what we do. Validation and acceptance can be displayed in many ways- someone genuinely showing you affections of love; receiving gifts from friends; your employer acknowledging your hard work and efforts; a coworker accepting your help and genuinely thankful for the progress you put towards the work. Acceptance and validation is necessary in life because it helps us to understand our unique position in this world and allows us to continue to develop our best and higher selves.

But what happens when you do not validate, accept, and appreciate yourself? You begin, consciously and subconsciously to solely look for these affections elsewhere. Through people, places, things, events, awards, achievements, accolades, degrees, assets, and the such.

It is OK to unconsciously practice this self-defeating behavior when you are not fully aware of who you are, what your purpose is in life, and if you have not yet begun to live as your true and authentic self- the individual you were created to be. It is OK when you just don’t know. But when you begin a journey of spiritual transformation and enlightenment to become your higher self, these old ideas, thoughts, patterns, and ways of doing things will no longer serve you, but only hinder you. In fact, as you begin true growth and development on your spiritual journey, you will come to realize that these old ideas and patterns stifle you and keep you limited. You will began to want to love you, appreciate you, and want to heal all past wounds. You will learn that after the love of God, your own love for yourself is truly what matters.

Everyone won’t love you.
Everyone won’t accept you.
Some just won’t like you.
Many will not validate you.
Some will not appreciate you.
Many will judge you based on your outer shell or extrinsic value (what you have or don’t have, looks, your false identity) opposed to your spirit-man- your intrinsic value.

As previously stated, we all do indeed want and need love from others, but it may not always come or it may come on low levels. Some may even have been validated positively all their lives or throughout their lives and relied on this positive validation to “be,” still without believing the positive affirmations for themselves. Still, some may validate you for their own personal motives and agenda (flattery, smooching, buttering, negative agendas). But you are not defined by what others think of you. You are defined by who God says you are and who you know you are deep inside. That’s why it’s important to read, meditate, and memorize the scriptures daily to solidify your identity through Christ. Know who you are and stand for the truth of your true self. If you are defined by others negatively, reject and refuse that identity.

Renew your mind daily and stand out as the individual you were destined to be. You are required to do so to glorify God and for your own self-preservation.

Romans 12:2- “And be not conformed to this world:but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

1 Corinthians 2:16- “For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.”

Philippians 2:5- “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.”

Ephesians 4:23- “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind.”

2 Corinthians 4:16- “For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man (mind and spirit) is renewed day by day.”

Philippians 4:8- “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

Renewing and transforming your mind so that it lines with the truth and who you are is another secret to unlocking and living the life you were meant to live.

 LOVE VALIDATE APPRECIATE ACCEPT YOURSELF