Growing in maturity and wisdom allows you to learn how to guard your heart while at the same time keeping it open so that pure and right relationships are able to flow throughout your life. Negative and selfish relationships are able to be spotted early and by obtaining wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, you are able to know how to deal with these types of relationships. Wisdom, knowledge, and understanding will also allow you to know when to let these types of relationships go. When you are not wise on how to guard your heart while also giving and receiving love, while at the same time not knowing when to exercise boundaries, your life will be filled with unnecessary chaos, confusion, disorder, and frustration. It truly is a balancing act when you began to both guard your heart and yet keep it open so that you are not suppressing unforgiveness, bitterness, or hiding love from others.
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
“Guarding your heart” is not limited to guarding your heart when it comes to spousal relationships, but all other relationships with family, friends, peers, co-workers, acquaintances, and strangers. Guarding your heart extends to all areas of your life and also means to manage your emotions, thoughts, and feelings towards the circumstances in your life. It means to know when to “be angry but do not sin and don’t go to bed raged and bitter” (Ephesians 4:26); it means to not discipline your children for wrong/selfish/angry reasons, but discipline them in love; it means to strive to still honor and love your parents, regardless of neglect and abandonment; it means to know when to continue helping people, or know when to leave them in God’s hands. Without wisdom, one may think that to guard their heart, they must walk around with their hearts chained and securely locked, not letting anyone “in;” treating everyone the same or not giving others the benefit of doubt, due to mishaps, misunderstandings, and wrongdoing from others. These are improper ways of guarding your heart and will cause a great deal of sorrow and bitterness. We must learn to guard our hearts with wisdom, but not allow ourselves to be hindered by not living a life of love, faith, giving, and unity just because we are fearful of showing love and kindness, in fear that we will get hurt “again.” And this is where the balancing act comes in- “being wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove” (St. Matthew 10:16).
We must always give ourselves to praying and specifically speaking on guarding your heart, we must not hesitate to lift our voices and hearts up to the Most High in prayer for guidance and wisdom when we are not sure how to handle certain situations and people. No matter the situation, the Most High will answer your true prayers that are prayed in faith.
The Most High and Our Hearts